What a rough couple of weeks.
A couple of Thursday’s ago, one of my assistant managers, I’ll call him Chris, walked into my office, slid the door closed, and said under his breath, “There’s something I need to talk to you about.”
Perhaps it was in the way he closed the door, or the needless hush in his voice, but it prompted me to jokingly respond, “Hey, as long as you’re not resigning, I’m all ears.”
“That’s just it…I’m resigning”, he replied.
Wow. It took me by complete surprise.
Chris had only been working for me for a few months, and by all accounts was doing a fantastic job. His team loved him, and together they were preforming very well. He and I had developed an easy working relationship, and our business’s results were, and still are, trending very positively.
In my experience, when someone announces that they’re leaving their job, it’s often anti-climactic. One of those things that everyone saw coming. It wasn’t like that this time.
I don’t think the guy was around long enough for that. We were still getting to know him, and figuring out what made him tick.
And so it was a surprise. Chris played a key role, and won’t be easily replaced. Because he left for a competitor I had to let him go immediately, which was interesting, something I’d never had to do before. In my 8 years as a people manager, I’ve never had a direct report leave to a competitor.
One moment you’re strategizing, communicating, leading and delivering together, the next you’re shaking hands in the parking lot and hearing the customary and often insincere parting words, “let’s do lunch sometime.”
BEING TONE-DEAF HAS A COST
Before he left, we discussed his reasons for going. For one, Chris had felt as though he had been treated poorly by senior management prior to my hiring him. For one, he had aspired to a different role, something he had talked about with his previous manager, and other senior leaders. But no one gave him the time of day. One of them, my direct manager, felt he was better suited for this particular job, and more or less placed him there. Technically, I hired him, but my boss puts the “micro” in micromanagement…you get the point.
Earlier, Chris had shared with me about other mistreatment he had experienced, it wasn’t pretty. It was something I had addressed on his behalf, but it fell on deaf ears.
So here’s a guy, young, talented, incredibly intelligent. An up-and-coming leader. But he’s disengaged. He’s been placed in a role he didn’t ask for, and didn’t want. When he voiced his concerns, they weren’t acknowledged. People just assumed he would tow the line.
He’d been treated poorly, more than once. It’s amazing he performed as well as he did, considering.
WRAP YOUR ARMS AROUND YOUR PEOPLE
As a leader, when you have good people, wrap your arms around them. Make them know they are valued. Acknowledge their concerns. Demonstrate to them that you are invested in their career. If you want them to take on a role or a task they don’t understand, explain to them how it can help their career development.
In fact, do this with all of your people, and you know what will happen? You’ll discover that you have more good people than you realized. And many of those good people will become great.
I did my best to be that leader in the 4 months I worked with Chris. In fact, (humblebrag warning) he said that working for me had been the best experience he’d had with a manager in several years.
I mention that ONLY to point out that regardless of my efforts, it wasn’t enough. The perception had been set long ago, and it hadn’t left him. In the end, a competitor inherits a very talented individual. Our loss is their gain, and real talent is in short supply.
In the aftermath, I’m only thinking about my team. Actually, that’s not accurate. Selfishly, I’m also thinking about myself. I’m having a hard time getting past the 11-hour days I will endure for the next few weeks, and how incredibly hard my staff are working to bridge the gap. I know we will though, they are truly amazing people and I’m very proud of them.
ALWAYS SEE THE OPPORTUNITY
As a leader, it’s important to view adversity as an opportunity. In this case, I’ll be able to work more closely with my entire staff, as I am now their primary support, at least for the coming weeks.
Also, having to do some most of the work that Chris was responsible for will help me stay sharp, and give me a fresh look at all areas of the business.
I have another manager I rely on, who will benefit from greater responsibility.
In short, it’s an opportunity for everyone to step up and lead.
10 thoughts on “A CASE STUDY IN LEADERSHIP AND VALUE”
Good grief, 11-hour days? That’s enough to make me crabby lol. But there is so much truth to this. I feel like Chris myself most days; it’s so hard to find good and effective management. It sounds like you’re a pretty good manager, but the system and upper management are shackling you, which is a shame.
It’s funny because if businesses invested in quality leadership, they’d save so much money in the long term. They wouldn’t have to spend money and time hiring and training new people, which costs thousands of dollars in many cases. When will people learn??
Hey! Yeah, 11-hour days get old quick. Thankfully, it’s temporary! You’re so right about investing in quality leadership. I should add that the company I work for is a leading edge organization that has a reputation for putting people first. Unfortunately, it seems as thought there’s been a shift in culture over the past year or two, one that’s becoming focused on profit at the expense of the employee experience. I do my best to filter that stuff for my employees, not always possible though.
Oh boy MMM. That sounds a little stressful. You are so right. Being a leader is not for everyone, and few people do it well. I have to manage people and I and awful at it. I will never be good at it, ever. I know I could never own my own company – hiring and firing. Just the thought of it sends me into an anxiety attack. Good luck, man. 11 hour days – yikes! : (
Linda, I’m sure you are far better than you give yourself credit for! I actually love people management, but like anything, it has it’s ups and downs. As for the long days, today was another doozy, but there’s light at the end of the tunnel! 🙂
As a manager the last thing you want is your employees to leave. Even the average employees make things a challenge but especially your stars.
I left my last management position largely due to a poor manager above me (ironically). I’m now an individual contributor again but noylt sure if I will go back. It was to the point where I considered leaving my employer of a decade due to the boss. People leave managers not companies..
So much truth to this, FTF, thanks for sharing!
Not fun, MMM. But I’m glad you learned that the employee valued his experience with you. And at least his last impression of the work he did for the company will be a good one. It really stinks that no one previously took his concerns to heart.
Hey Mrs. G! It’s unfortunate…one thing I’ve learned is not to dwell on it too long, thankfully. Writing about it enabled me to get it out of my system. A new season begins. 🙂
Sad to hear that your team lost such a talented individual. I personally have no managing experience but I feel that being a leader is an extremely challenging task. As it’s a very delicate relationship between manager and subordinates.
Agreed! On one hand, employees switching companies is a simple reality in any workplace, but if you really look after your people, you can make it a rare occurrence. It doesn’t cost much money to recognize and value people, but recruiting and developing new talent is a different story!